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My Twin Pregnancy Part 1: And there’s the other pair of legs…

My twin pregnancy was far from textbook. It didn’t follow any of the rules. It was a scary time but it brought me my two precious baby boys. It’s taken me a while to get here but now I want to remember and share the turbulent journey that we’ve been on. This is the first in a four part series about my twin pregnancy.

18th November 2014

I’d been counting down the days until the ‘big’ scan – I was finally lying on the hospital trolley in a warm, dimly lit room, my huge bump covered in cold jelly and the sonographer doing her thing. She asked if we’d like to know the sex and we declined – we fancied a surprise at the end of all the pushing. After another 20 minutes of scanning, the sonographer casually dropped a bombshell with “…and there’s the other pair of legs…” We were expecting identical twins.

I was 21 weeks pregnant, this was my fourth ultrasound (due to a few complications) and up to that point three different doctors had ‘missed’ one of my babies!! I sat up as quickly as my beached whale body allowed and expressed my extreme shock in a rather incoherent panicked way. The next few minutes are a bit of a blur of excitement and pure terror- I remember a midwife ushering my husband into a seat as she told me she “didn’t want to be scraping him off the floor.” His face was ashen.

Once the initial panic dissipated, we were so excited. There was a lot of whooping and congratulating down the phone from our family and friends. Our twin adventure had begun.

This explained why I had been so rubbish at being pregnant. I’d had all these really romantic notions about what it would be like to be pregnant – blooming and beautiful and all that nonsense. This was not the case for me. I was a mess. I felt normal for all of about 2 weeks after the crazy, wonderful white stick blue line moment. Then it was just awful. I have never experienced anything like the bone crushing tiredness I felt. I was coming home from work and getting into bed at 7pm! This was not helped by the fact that I couldn’t stomach my favourite friend – coffee. I missed my daily nespresso hit. I’m a little bit embarrassed to admit that I was genuinely worried that I’d never like coffee again!

Everything made me feel sick. I was very rarely actually sick but I had pretty much constant nausea for 4 months. I’m sure every single one of my work colleagues knew I was pregnant well before any announcement. The only way I could keep the waves at nausea at bay was to munch on dry crackers and ryvita pretty constantly! Not particularly normal behaviour in the office. I was never very convinced that baby brain was a ‘thing’ – just sounds like a bit of an excuse for laziness (ha!). I had extreme baby brain – it was like all my brain cells went into hibernate mode. Seven months later and I’m not entirely sure that the majority of them have woken up!

Then there was the evil SPD. You produce a hormone when you are pregnant that helps to relax your muscle ligaments to aid with the birthing process. With SPD too much of this hormone makes your pelvis loosen and misalign, causing a lot of pelvic pain. By 19 weeks I was really struggling to walk – I had a brace and some crutches thanks to my lovely physio. But even a few steps was hard work. I was struggling into the office in a brace and looking like I had advanced arthritis. I was not a poster girl for pregnancy.

To top it all off, everyone that I’d ever knew that had been pregnant had sailed through – making it all look so easy and not really having a massive impact on their day to day life for 9 months. They all looked gorgeous with perfect little round bumps, glowing cheeks and shiny hair.I was convinced I must be doing something wrong.

So when I found out we were having twins I felt vindicated. I’m not totally useless at pregnancy per se. I am however utterly rubbish at the process of growing twins. Although I have to say, the final results were pretty flipping gorgeous.

Ps. If at all possible, I’d recommend growing one baby at a time!

PPs. I’m not convinced that I’ll ever test out the above theory with another pregnancy!

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I’m linking this post up to the #FabFridayPost and #coolmumclub

Ethan & Evelyn

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14 thoughts on “My Twin Pregnancy Part 1: And there’s the other pair of legs…

  1. This Mum's Life says:

    Congratulations on your first post!! I’m speechless that your twins were missed until 20 weeks!! That’s incredible! My boys are 14 months apart, and roughly the same size (the younger one is actually slightly bigger!!) and everyone thinks they are twins! I will look forward to hearing more of your story in the future.
    X

    • ToldByMum says:

      Thanks! I think I’m still in shock almost a year later! Nothing prepares you for a moment like that… I’m sure your boys will be best friends with so little an age gap 🙂 Now to get part 2 live!!

  2. Min says:

    Wow, I can’t believe they weren’t spotted until 20 weeks either! Congratulations. I sounds as though the pregnancy was awful, but obviously worth it!

  3. Katie says:

    I’m 21 weeks pregnant now with twins and I am so with you on the exhaustion! I have never experienced anything like that before – it was awful. I also had the nausea until about 12 weeks when it, thankfully, disappeared. I also hear ya’ about the pelvic pain and I feel much better that it’s not just me struggling to walk! My new friend is braxton hicks, especially if I’ve not drank enough water. I look forward to reading your blog more 🙂

    • sarahcampbell says:

      Congratulations!! Yeah – there is no doubt that twin pregnancies wreak havoc with your body! If you haven’t already, I’d recommend finding a physio. They can work wonders trying to get your pelvis properly aligned and it gave me so much relief each week. Here’s to no more pregnancy issues for the next trimester 🙂

    • sarahcampbell says:

      Thanks! Such a friendly, welcoming community – I didn’t realise this blog world even existed a few months ago. Yeah – the boys arrived fairly quickly after we found out we were having two. What a year! They certainly keep you on your toes as you well know! Lovely to meet x

  4. Emily says:

    Fab post! I can’t imagine what it must have been like to be pregnant with twins. I thought being pregnant with just one baby was exhausting enough so I take my hats off to anyone that does it with twins. I can’t wait to read more of your four part series! Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays for the first time, hopefully see you again next week 🙂 Emily

    • ToldByMum says:

      Thanks Emily – I seem to somehow have deleted the Marvellous Monday badge from my post so will see if I can work out how to get it back!!! Great wee linky – lots of good reads 🙂

  5. Su {Ethan & Evelyn} says:

    That’s incredible that they did not find out until the big scan! Wow! Hats down to you. I can’t even managed with one as I was so ill with severe morning sickness with my second one for 5 months! I could not eat or move from my couch! I think you should give yourself a pat on the back I would have skipped work altogether. No joke! 🙂 Thank you for linking up with me again. #FabFridayPost xx

    • sarahcampbell says:

      Remembering the morning sickness is enough to put you off pregnancy for life!!! Thankfully though mine didn’t last 5 months – that’s awful 🙁 Enjoyed linking up – lots of good reads 🙂

  6. Talya says:

    Wow that must have been such a light bulb moment finding that out! Crazy they missed it but wow that explains a lot. Thanks so much for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely x

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